That’s why I’m going to teach you where to touch her and [...]]]> The second her pants are off, you’re two fingers and three knuckles deep inside her. You’re moving your hand in spastic and rapid motions. If she’s lucky, you’re getting closer to where you’ve been told the g-spot is. But it shouldn’t be this way. 

That’s why I’m going to teach you where to touch her and how.  

But before you can touch her nether regions, you’ve got to know the landscape and geography. The video below will show you the basic roadmap. (Be warned that your partner might have a few different roads and shortcuts, or she might even drive backwards and on the right side of the road. It just makes her exotic.)

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Once you know your way around, it’s best to start hanging out with the locals. Ask your girlfriend to masturbate for you, so you can see exactly how she does it. Does she put one, two, or any fingers inside of her? How many on her clit? How fast does she move her hands? Is it in circles?

This is where a lot of guys I know get lost. Either their girlfriend has never masturbated, or isn’t comfortable doing it in front of them. Your partner needs to know what gets her off (or at least want to find out) in order for this to be helpful. If she’s in for learning, then you can explore together.

So once you’ve got the map, and an attractive tour guide, it’s time to go spelunking!

Packing for the trip (Anticipation):

There’s nothing hotter than a girl really wanting you. When it comes to fingering a girl, it makes the experience more enjoyable for the both of you. Play up the anticipation by avoiding the two hot spots (clit and g-spot) until she can’t handle it anymore.

You can do this by massaging the inner and outer lips of the vagina or the mons veneris (where pubic hair may or may not be). One of the best positions for this is pulling her to the edge of the bed where her legs can hang over. You can then kneel down to match the level of her privates. For a little more control (and to protect your nose from breaking when she bucks like a mule) wrap your arms around her legs. This gives you great access for massaging. Also if she has a pillow behind her back, it gives her a great view, all the more to get turned on by you.

Kissing up and down her thighs and licking her labia will build the anticipation and work entirely to your advantage. As the anticipation builds, you can actually watch her vagina change shapes and colors. The lips will get fuller and may even turn a darker red. The important changes are happening on the inside though. The more turned on she is, the wetter she’ll get, allowing easier penetration. Arousal also increases the size and hardness of the g-spot, making it easier for you to find.

Fingering Techniques:

Once she’s ready, you can begin massaging either her clit or her g-spot. If you’re adventurous, you might even try both. The video below will show you some suggestions on how you can go about this. 

Remember that when she moans louder, it doesn’t mean go harder. Always start gentle and ask your partner what she wants along the way.

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Other fun things you can do with your hands

Once you’ve got the basics down, here’s some advice on turning up the adventure

• If your partner is one of those girls who loves direct clit contact, place a huge glob of lube on your finger and place it directly on her clit. If her hood is large enough, you can slip your finger underneath it and rub in small delicate circles.

• If she’s still not used to the idea of ass play, you might be able to warm her up to the idea by touching her perineum. The small area of tissue that separates the vagina and the anus is packed with nerves and can be quite pleasurable if massaged. Start by gently caressing the lower part of her labia with a lubed thumb while you’re kissing or licking her clit. Slowly massage downward in big circles. If she likes it, she might ask you to go lower. 

You’re all set now

I hope this blog puts you a few steps closer to being a sexpert. You now know the female anatomy, its most sensitive parts, how to build up her anticipation, and how to properly finger a girl. You’ve also hopefully learned what not to do. If you know other people who could use this very useful information, stock up on your good karma and spread it around.

What more do you want to know? Got and tricks or tips for the rest of us? Post below in the comments!