Sexual Skills 101

You and I, well, we’re not typical.

While most people dream and hope for better sex, we’re taking action. We both realize amazing sex isn’t something that comes naturally, but rather it’s something that takes effort, persistence, and, yes, talent.

But talent begins with an unremarkable set of base skills. First we walk, talk, and learn how to not shit ourselves. (I mean, let’s be blunt.)

We have to develop hand-eye coordination, balance, and cognitive intelligence. Then we have to learn how to use our skills well with other people. It takes time to become a great football team or reverse cowgirl.

Remarkable teams develop with incredible communication and remarkable talents develop with relentless practice.

Sex is no different.

If you want it to be more satisfying, you have to communicate well and practice — a lot.

Everyone has to learn how to masturbate, orgasm, and pleasure someone else.

Whether it’s sex or sports, people develop skills and talented team work in the same way: Personal skills, Interpersonal skills, Mission, and Practice.

I call it the P.I.M.P process for short. (I know, I know. The acronym is an unfortunately memorable coincidence.)

Here’s how it might apply to sex:

Personal skills: Masturbation, learning how to orgasm, learning what feels good.

Interpersonal skills: Communication, coordination, constructive criticism.

Mission: Simultaneous orgasms, that weird position you saw in a porn, making her cum.

Practice: Following the above three points while having sex and talking about what  brought you closer to the mission during and after.

Learning how to have amazing sex isn’t much different than how you’d learn to do anything else. Imagine the skill development of a soccer player.

After learning how to walk and run, he tries to keep control of the ball. Starting with a few light kicks while walking, he can eventually run down the field without losing his balance or the soccer ball.Once he’s able to run and stay in control of the ball, he has to learn how to kick accurately.

Without learning walking, running, control, and kicking, he’d never be able to pass. And passing is where it gets tricky.

Using his excellent personal skills to get where he needed to be, he had to learn how to communicate to another player his intentions. If he can’t communicate properly, the other player won’t know he’s supposed to receive the ball and the pass will fail.

Now, think about all the players on his team. They all develop personal skills, they communicate, and then they decide what their mission is. Ultimately, it might be to win the game, but it might also be to execute a certain play or pass.

Then, they practice — a lot.

I’ve never seen a child run before they walk, and I’ve never heard of a couple having great sex without knowing individually what they like.

Sex, like anything else, takes practice. Sex, unlike the piano lessons you took in the third grade, will be fun to practice.

If you have 15 minutes free during your lunch break, challenge yourself to develop your sexual skills. It’ll be a lot more productive than facebooking your highschool hook-ups and a lot more fun too!

Have you ever used the P.I.M.P. process in your sex or daily life? How did you develop your personal sexual skills? Post below in the comments!

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