Over the past 10 weeks I’ve been teaching a series of workshops called “Sex with Billie Becker.” (Calm down, it’s supposed to sound risqué.) I’ve taught about sex toys, erotic massage, anal sex, and other popular topics—or so I thought. I’ve been surprised to find that workshops that involve stimulation of the penis get twice the amount of attendees. So why are cock workshops so much more appealing? I have no idea, so why not guess?
- Stimulating a penis is more difficult, so more people come to learn how.
This couldn’t possibly be true. Sure, it can be difficult to figure out what your partner likes; no two people are a like. But for the majority of men the equation is pretty simple. (For the math nerds: Lube + Grip + Back and Forth Motion = Orgasm.) No, it doesn’t always work that way. Yes, there’s potential for other types of orgasms: stronger, weaker, longer, an ejaculation without one. When it comes down to it though, there’s not a lot of mystery.
- Pussies are easy to please, so less people come.
No way. The female anatomy is like a labyrinth made out of Rubik’s cubes. Not only are we taught the entirely wrong way to pleasure them (Force + Girth + Speed + Depth Inside Vagina ≠ Pleasure), but they’re always changing. What feels good once might not feel good again. Or maybe it will. Or maybe she’ll only want one very specific type of stimulation. Jesus, we’re really over our heads here.
- Heterosexual females find me incredibly attractive and want to attend workshops that pertain to cocks to hide their curiosity.
While it’s nice to dream, even I have to admit it’s not very plausible.
- It’s cool to learn how to suck dick, but not cool to learn how to lick clit.
Ouch. It breaks my heart that this seems all too likely. Amongst my guy friends I hear, “ Man, I’ve gotten SO much ass this month it’s incredible!” Amongst my lady friends it’s more like, “He made me cum so hard! I gave him the best blowjob ever after that.” What’s the difference? Quality vs. Quantity: the age-old debate.
So why do workshops about cocks get so many more people to come?
Because people who suck dick are probably more interested in quality than quantity. But it’s all backwards; if women are interested in quality and men are interested in quantity, why are women sluts for having lots of sex and men aren’t as expected to perform well?
I may never find the answer. In the meantime, I’ll keep dreaming about that third option. (Hey, you never know what curious straight girls will do.)
Why are dicks so much more fun to learn about? Post your thoughts below in the comments!
Great! Just started reading your posts and I love them! I think men don’t show because honestly, if men can’t stop and ask for directions, what makes us think they will stop and listen to them?
Hey,
well i think the main problem is that women care to much about us… i mean they try (or maybe just my g/f) to make us happy BUT we are so selffish (or however its writen;) that we just think of our dick and wana make him happy. So if we would show up at a seminar to learn how to satisfy a woman it needs too much balls for like 90% of us…
or they just life to far away ;D
wishes from germany Björn
PS:keep it up i love your blog
Thanks Björn. I know distance is a problem for teaching workshops, so keep your eyes peeled, I might be coming out with a coaching product soon. I really appreciate the comments and support!
Best –
Billie
How about some tips about convincing the girl to cum in other ways…my gf is refusing to try other ways …and yes we talk about that but when in bad she refuses… like when i lick her p.sy and see her geting wery hot she stops me..and i dont know how to convince her that its ok for her to cum.
haha i love the male equation Lube + Grip + Back and Forth Motion = Orgasm, made me laugh.
@ Robert
That’s a pretty complicated question that would take a lot more probing on my end. I would recommend talking to her about it outside of sex and if that doesn’t work, feel free to email me and I might be able to let you in on a new coaching offer I’ve got.
- Billie
This one is actually easy:
Women have instinct to be a mother, so they want to keep the family and her man happy and satisfied, hence the quality.
Men have instinct to spread as much of his seed around as possible, hence the quantity.