Erotic Massage

Erotic massage might be a politically correct way of saying fingering a girl or giving a hand job, but it includes one of the most powerful tools of sexual prowess: anticipation.

There are few things that can affect everything we do; anticipation is one of them. It kept you awake on Christmas Eve when you were six, it made you puke before your first big game in high school, and now I’m going to show you how to wield the power of anticipation to become better in bed. So grab your sexy significant other and find out how to take pleasure into your own hands.

The key to pulling this off is not giving the person you’re with what they want right away.

Setting the Stage:

Communication: If you’ve ever come to the close of a romantic date to find the person you’re with punching you in the arm and calling you bud, you’ve already discovered why this is so important. Imagine that feeling magnified a thousand times when the two of you are on different pages about what type of massage you’re offering. Be clear about the desired outcome.

What you’ll need:

• Massage Oil: Be careful of nut allergies. Note that some people prefer coconut oil or massage creams to the messy traditional massage oils (other people find the oily mess a turn on). Picking out the perfect oil could make a romantic prelude to the massage.

• Water Based Lubricant: This is necessary for genital massage. Oils and lotions break down condoms compromising their safety.

• Towels: If it goes right, this will get messy.

• Pillows: For comfort. Women typically feel more comfortable if there are pillows placed under her knees while she’s lying on her back, and under her ankles while on her stomach.

• Heat: There’s nothing worse than a cold massage. You want the room you’re working in to be hot enough that you both feel comfortable being naked (I’ve been told the magic number is 75ºF). It’s also important to make sure the room is warm so that if the person your massaging is male, his testicles don’t retreat from the cold by sucking up into his body, making genital massage difficult and unpleasant.

Body Massage:

It’s important to start every erotic massage with body massage. Rubbing your partner down in oil increases sexual anticipation for both of you. Body massage also allows your partner to become comfortable with your touch and take you seriously. I consider myself a sexual finesse entrepreneur, but even I couldn’t my contain laughter if my boyfriend went from a kiss to trying out the “slip-n-slide”. (Watch the video for a how-to).

There is also a school of thought that believes you can make someone orgasm without ever touching their genitals through body massage. While this isn’t possible for everyone, who doesn’t love a challenge?

Explore all the parts of the body, but pay special attention to the feet and ankles of your female partner, and the buttocks of the male. Long, slow, deep strokes are key.

Genital Massage:

Watch the video below for a few suggestions on techniques. Keep in mind, however, that every person is different; the suggestions are merely suggestions. Keep talking with your partner to find out what feels good.

(Talking can be sexy, just throw in some extra adjectives and use your porn voice, for example: “You’re so fucking (adjective), how does my (adjective), (adjective), (body part) feel?”).

A good rule of thumb is to go softer than you think with women and harder than you think with men.

Find your own style:

In the video I name a few of my techniques, but there’s and infinite number of ways to get some one off. Try finding new ways to build anticipation and play with those hot spots.

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