You’re curious and who could blame you? Her ass is totally uncharted territory. Much like the first explorers of Mount Everest, you’re anticipating the journey to either be the best of your life or fall deep into a deadly crevasse leading to your untimely death (or at least get slapped in the face).
These simple tips will help ensure the journey is a pleasurable one for her and for you.
For The Love Of (whichever deity you so choose), DO NOT:
- Go “From the stink to the pink”: This goes for your fingers, mouth, penis, or any other object. This can lead to very serious infections caused by E. Coli. Not only is it gross, it’ll lead to weeks of not getting laid while she’s taking antibiotics.
- Do it dry: Use lube. Lots and lots of lube. Let’s just be frank about this one: asses aren’t stretchy and pliable like a vagina and they don’t produce their own moisture. The flesh there is thinner, so they’re prone to tearing. This can be lessened by the use of lube, but more than just what comes with the condom. (If you’re not convinced and decide to embark on this adventure without lube, I hope your girlfriend has the guts to forcibly shove something in your ass without lube. And if she doesn’t, I’ll find you and do it for her.)
DO:
- Talk to her about it first: Communication is key. Make sure she’s comfortable with it first. The anus is a pretty good indicator of willingness, and if she’s not willing it’ll pucker tighter than the first time she tried bungee jumping. While a tight ass sounds hot in theory, it’s likely to result in pain for both of you. This step is probably the hardest part.
- Work your way up to it: Start by placing your finger on the outside of her anus and simply letting it rest there. This can add extra stimulation (especially if you’re taking her from behind) without diving right into the deep end. Once she’s comfortable with that, slowly place your finger inside of her during intercourse for a change of pace. Once you’re both comfortable, you can move on in size and depth.
Got any sexual things you’re totally anal about? Post below in the Comments!
whoa thats deep! but loved it. though this makes me feel inexperienced now! lotta catching up to do..
Toys! Toys! Toys! It helps to build up with a variety of toys, and if your the kind of guy that faints at the sight of something that wiggles and wobbles, get over it and fast. Unlike men, most women need some sort of stimulation from something with at least a Japanese motor in it! I’m not saying that a girl who can get off freely with her hands doesn’t exist. It’s just a rare find. So build up with the toys, boys, and the night will be more remember able and blissful for the both of you.
once again, a great post! i entirely agree with you in the importance of communication here. trying something like this can be a really big step in a relationship, and if either party isn’t ready it can lead to some really awkward, potentially painful, situations. thanks for laying down some ground rules! i agree with tayvia (above) about the toys, too. any thoughts on toys for use at (well, in) the back door?
If you’re going to use anything on the backdoor, I would definitely go with WATERPROOF. Most toys come in two versions: waterproof and not. By spending an extra couple of bucks you’ll make cleanup far easier, and possibly advance to underwater fun! In general start out small and work your way up. The more time you spend on foreplay the more comfortable she’ll be and the less likely she’ll be to tense up. If she tenses then there is no way that you are going to get anything in her without damaging her and probably ruining your chances of scoring anal. You can find toys at your local sex store, passion party consultant, and especially the internet. And if your worried about shipping, almost all sites send the “items” in a plain brown box without any markings like, “THUNDERSTICK 3000!” on them. Let me wrap this up, any dildos are perfect. If you’re intimidated by penis shaped items you can go for vibrating wands, anal plugs, waterproof bullets, hell you can even go cheap and check out the recession portion of this site. (However a candle doesn’t have much give to it and may rip the lining of the anus if handled improperly.) Something with a strong motor isn’t needed for anal so almost anything will do. In conclusion, lots of lube, massage the outside, start small to big, make sure she’s comfortable, if she tenses, start from the beginning again. I hope this was informative. And hell, if you don’t want it in your house, give it to her as a gift and you’ll be the boyfriend she never forgets.
OH! DON’T FORGET! If you have any type of sex toy with a silicone or skin like surface you ABSOLUTELY need sex toy cleaner! Soaps do not disinfect toys with these surfaces and bacteria can linger and thrive. In fact soap residues can even stay on your sex toys, which the next time they’re used can cause infections. Sprays get into the pores, disinfect, and when they are rinsed off they leave no residues. Sprays cost from six to fifteen dollars and are a must. Spray before and after using a toy, rinse and dab with a towel or let air dry. I would also not use toys for anal then vaginal, UNLESS they have been thoroughly washed. But it’s better to be safe and have a couple just for anal.
Please keep in mind that some of us have tried assplay and don’t like it, and we should not feel guilty or pressured to try it again just because a man feels entitled to it.
Great point, I agree. Thanks for bringing that up!
Good tip – a clit vibe will help the process along. Try the RO80 bullet or a simple, silver bullet held against her sensitive area during entry and anal penetration.
ok here goses
my boyfriend can make me cum from my ass but i cant come and i havent ever had an orgasm ever from my vigina or pussy what ever you want me to call it ive had my clit perced and that was supose to climax when u wlk up stairs nothtiing like that ever hyapppend he plays with a certian part of the vigina and it tickles and is unbareable when he touches it he says if he keeps playing with it i;ll cum but i cant stand the sentation am i retatred or what can or should i do PLEASE HELP
That question requires A LOT of very specific attention by a certified sexologist. I recommend you seek the care and attention you need to address the problem.
I can tell you that it’s common to have a very sensitive clit. But pain should be dealt with very specifically.
Going to a sexologist is okay to do. You would go to a doctor if you had strep throat, this is the same thing but it involves your sexuality.
– Billie